Happy Tuesday!

Hi, Just checking in. How are you feeling today?

I’m Sending L❤️ve to all who may be struggling.. The struggle is real so It’s ok if you can’t handle much today..

If life feels hard, don’t be hard on yourself. Remember: This too will pass.

So don’t give up ..

Celebrate ALL the small victories too !!. Reach out for support if you need it. Stay safe and keep well x

Pandemic Exhaustion

Living under the continued threat of COVID-19 can begin to wear you down.
Is this true for you?

Around the globe the affects of this pandemic has impacted the lives of people in ways they never even contemplated and we have had to adapt to new ways of living as this virus has taken a hold of our society. We are approaching a year soon. Having to play our individual role in trying to protect ourselves, our families and others, in many cases is taking its toll leaving us feeling exhausted. Not knowing how long we will be fighting this, trying to keep up with all the changes, vaccines, lockdowns, deciphering fact from fiction and daily news reports have made it easier to feel demotivated, hopeless and fatigued as the days roll by.

If you are feeling these effects, don’t worry, you are not alone
It’s a natural response people feel to the prolonged uncertainty and the disruption caused by a pandemic and it affects. We are all different and
we may find we are experiencing some or all of the following:
Feeling irriatable
Lacking concentration
Feeling hopeless and lacking motivation
Your sleep and eating habits changed
Feeling stressed
over the littlest things that you normally would manage well.

Whist this type of exhaustion or fatigue is not a medical illness, it can be a threat to our and others safety as the Motivation to keep following the safety guidelines can dwindle to the degree that we get more complacent about the virus, letting our guards down even though it is spreading and taking lives. With the continued sporadic lockdowns, seeking your freedom could be putting yourself and others at risk.
During such stressful times, when feelings of discouragement and hopelessness continue to wear us down, seek out encouragement. Find it wherever it exists!
In staying connected with friends and family through the online platforms that support video chats (zoom, face Time, whatsApp video calling, etc). We should make that call or send that text. Sending letters is a dying art these days but it has its benefits for both the writer and the recipient. By reaching out to friends and family we can swap ideas on what has helped each other to cope, put a smile on each other’s face and just a general chit chat that can make the world of difference.
Some people find solace in the pages of the bible…
(Isaiah 41:13, Philippians 4:6-7, 1Peter 5:7)
Here are some other suggestions of the things that can be done to bring us joy and help to take the focus off our worries for a while. By breaking up our days, we can try to build a regular routine of these suggestions every week
It’s worth a try…
1. When was the last time we tried a new hobby or project, like a course, learning something new?
By immersing ourselves into something new or doing something creative we are setting aside time to focus elsewhere. We thrive when we have a routine, when we have direction and when the days feel less uncertain. Our days have been restricted to a some degree, so building new routines helps us get through them.
2. Build exercise into your days or weeks. This may consist of a brisk stroll to clear your head (whilst getting fresh air) or to break up the amount of time sitting watching Neflix… 😉 If working from home, take comfort breaks to stretch legs for the circulation and rest eyes from constantly peering in front of a computer screen. Find a time that’s most suitable.
3. Read a new or unfinished book.
4. Create a playlist of all your favourite (cheerful songs) and enjoy them regularly!
5. Make a list of all the joys in your life and keep adding to them.
Eat Well.
We should Consciously keep trying to boost our immune systems, to stay healthy. Hydration is important as the central heating on more often this time of year and can be very dehydrating. Eat healthy food. Doing these things appreciatively for all the benefits to our bodies and the feel good factor in knowing we are choosing to do this for ourselves is a boost on its own
❤️
“Everything can be taken from us but one thing: the freedom to choose our attitude in any given set of circumstances”.

Stay Positive! Keep Well, protect yourself & others, keep thriving ❤️

Thriving Through it

Even in the smallest ways it can be a challenge not to become overwhelmed by a situation and loose all hope. We have to keep pushing through one small step at a time. Your pace not mine seeing the light at the end of the tunnel even if it feels far in the distance, just know within yourself that it’s there and think not about giving up but about showing up at the finish with nothing but a smile knowing that somewhere along that journey you grew stronger.

Sometimes the courage to just put one foot in front of the other, day by day is the bravest thing you can do because it’s the hardest thing to do and even if you can’t see it or don’t feel it now, you will be glad you did…

Because sometimes it’s through our darkest times that we emerge greater in service, in gratitude with empathy and appreciation of things that excel in value that maybe we failed to see and feel before and our lives can take on a whole new meaning.

Love ❤️

Not everything is in our control, so what do you do?

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You Work with it, that’s what you do. You work around it, over it, under it until things change. Hard as it may be, try not to succumb to fear and be paralysed by it. This makes you feel defeated and takes you into sad mode. Hold onto you with hope and positivity. Seek it when it feels depleted. This is your own unique journey and you have scope to implement what your soul needs. Embrace the opportunities to do you just that and work it!

One Love ❤️ Stay safe, Stay Nourished💋

Picture the Moment

When we hear the term- ‘being present’ or ‘being in the moment’, you can be forgiven for saying it sounds so cliche.

But mindfulness is not just a word thrown about by certain types of people, it is actually a thing. Something that can be very rewarding if you practice it in your own way. With our uniqueness we develop our own way within what is defined creating our own sense of awareness.

How? you ask.

What is the word actually suggesting?

Lets look at the definition:

noun

1: the quality or state of being conscious or aware of something.

2: a mental state achieved by focusing on one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts and bodily sensations…

I’ve chosen to equated it to moments..

So I could be in the home, working on something, focused to some degree and then I hear the sound of laughter..

I never get tired of hearing the sound of Laughter.

Each of my children laugh differently but with similarities and no matter what I’m doing, when I hear them laugh, I stop and smile and even chuckle a bit as I imagine the expression on their faces – if I’m in a different room.

When my husband is having regular banter with the kids the sound of their collective laughter is everything, in amongst all their chitter chatter, the laughter is pure magic! Pleased by those simple things…. every time.

One of my brothers, when I hear his laughter, he has a particular laugh that requires him to fling his head back, mouth open wide to express the humour in what he has just heard. A big hearty expression of laughter I just love it! It never fails to evoke an inward laugh, even thinking about it now I find myself smiling.

I love laughter, can you tell?

So what has laughter to do with anything? Well nothing to be honest, only that sometimes it’s absolutely necessary for us to just notice what we sometimes fail to see, just the little things, a moment that causes you to inhale or smile. The way a captured moment can be freeze framed a little longer or the ways it makes you feel inside.

Stop to acknowledge that feeling.

Moments are so fleeting, they come and go with the blink of an eye, so take the time to stop and take it all in.

Take a deep breath and just pay attention. Think about how you are feeling in that moment, acknowledge and honour it.

Pay attention to who ever you are with, or the silence you are in, the scenery of a newly discovered or familiar place.

You choose the moment, but here’s the condition: If you are in the company of another person, really look and pay attention to them. Particularly loved ones and especially at this time. Who knows when we will be restricted again from face to face visits and contact. I’m sure loved ones won’t mind you staring at them, I guess it will probably be quite nice to have a moment with you where they actually have your full attention.

I did this a few weeks ago when I went to visit my mother.

My Father was out for the day so I went to give her some company as since lockdown she spent a long time without really seeing us, her kids and grandchildren.

The day was lovely, bright and warm, very warm with the sunshine as beautiful as ever. We sat around the garden table on the patio in their south facing garden backing onto the park as it captured the sun in all its glory. We drank iced cool homemade lemonade. So refreshing and beautifully thirst quenching.. umm lovely.

Their cat, Tiddles basks in the warm summer sun, on her back, just under the plum tree on the grass towards the back of the garden. The sun rays fall through the leaves and Tiddles wags her tail slowly back and forth with squinting eyes, as she sniffs and enjoys the air.

We both notice the different bird sounds and identify the green parakeets that had recently been visiting the nearby trees, singing such a different song from the ones we had grown accustomed to.

A single plane flies overhead at one point, a lot less planes than was the norm, before COVID-19 came to stay. It took my attention for a split second.

Anyway, we talked, we drank and ate a lovely salad surrounded buy clean cream roses, pink hydrangeas and the pop of colours from the other flowers in their garden.

We talked about anything and everything. Her childhood, school days, the kids and putting the world to rights.

As I listened to her stories, I look in her face and notice her remarkable skin, the only lines gracing her lovely face are laughter lines that sit formally above the dimples on both cheeks that appear whenever she smiles.

Mummy is in her late 70’s and she has looked after herself well. I remember thinking, hope I look as good as she does when I am her age! Those genes, yes please!

The brown in the colour of her eyes, shone in the sunlight, almost glistened.

I could see my tiny reflection looking back at me.

She wore her bronze printed sleeveless dress with a tan crochet cardi and sandals on her feet. Tufts of her salt and pepper coloured hair revealed under her headscarf.

I breathe slowly, listening to Mum, taking it all in.

I decided to leave my phone on silent and chose not to check it, all the while praying I don’t get any urgent calls. For our moment together was to be uninterrupted. Sometime in the past mum had complained that I kept checking my phone. I was seemingly absent without leaving, only there only in body and I’ve had to put the phone away so as not to offend further.

This time was gonna be different, I made sure of that and there was no denying, she appreciated it, just being able to sit together, talk, laugh and be present without the pressures the daily distractions put on us. It made a difference.

In the middle of it all, we spontaneously touch each other’s hand, I hold onto hers and just stroke it. She looks me in the eyes and tells me “I Love You”. I get it. Butterflies tickle inside my belly, she touched my heart and I tell her the same right back. A cherished moment that has become a loving memory that now flashes upon my inward eye and warms my heart.

I am grateful.

I didn’t set out to practice a moment of mindfulness as most people would know it. I just decided I would visit mum with a conscious difference.

The way I would pay attention to that moment, to her, would be different.

I decided to be more ‘present’.

Our lives can get so busy, with distractions coming in every direction. Work, kids, the tech world, information overload. The lockdown exposed this when we were forced to slow down or push the pause button. It changed the game and how we play it.

Note to Self: Life is short and we don’t get a 2nd chance to relive any day that has already passed so sometimes we just need to make that conscious effort to just be in the moment, especially whenever we are with our loved ones or are doing something we really love to do.

Soak it up with all your senses, the sights, the sounds, how we feel.

Look for more opportunities to be present, find them in each day perhaps. I guess we just need to stop once in a while to see them.

As an end note, There will be bad feelings too. Allow yourself to acknowledge them, feel them, but try not to hold onto them. Allow the bad feelings to pass through like visitors, don’t give them permanent residency in your mind.

Remember: Time is but a moment. It quickly passes by and away it flies…

21 Days: Mental Wellness

21 Daily Actions to look after ourselves through these uncertain days. As we face this global pandemic together let’s try to maintain positive wellbeing.

Here we are again facing potential changes as we read and hear reports of the rate of infection from COVID-19 on the rise.

At the back of our minds as we approach the winter flu season, it feels like Deja vu, almost a given that we will be going back into some kind of lockdown situation but this time it feels different. Why?
Well for a start we have the benefit of hindsight, we know what lockdown feels like, tastes like, looks like oh yes, the highs and the LOWS.

Subsequent to our first experience where we were navigating through the unknown, the trajectory was being led by the powers that be and we lost control of our freedoms, some more than others.

This time, we are heading into the colder, darker days/months and somehow, it just feels, well should I say in comparison (if Its possible to compare an unprecedented situation) a complete different ball game one that at the moment may feel harder to play.

Don’t get me wrong, whilst the winter months are beautiful in their own right the rich colour palette, cozy nights in, lounge wear, warm fires, blankets and hot drinks; without the freedom to choose where we can go and who we can physically spend time with, changes the dynamics somewhat so much so that nothing feels the same.

Feelings of loneliness, boredom and isolation. Feeling stressed about work and or finances or living with an existing mental health condition(s), this could be an even more challenging time. So now more than ever we need to be kind to ourselves and each other.

Share what we are feeling and be willing to seek the help and support needed.
It’s ok not to feel ok and there are loads of agencies out there to help.


We should also try to cultivate hope and resilience. Tell ourselves hopeful things like: “This is tough, but I can get through it” and then each day for the next 21 days do each of the following :

  1. Run a nice long scented bath- candles, music. Create an atmosphere
  2. Call a loved one- tell them something to boost their day.
  3. Take a walk in the crisp fresh air. Look up to the skies, say thank you.
  4. Text 5 people and send them an encouraging message
  5. Eat well, keep you immune system strong.
  6. Wake up 30 mins early, do some stretch exercises to energise
  7. Meditate or pray
  8. Journal 5 things you are grateful for
  9. Make a plan to meet up with a friend(s) for a coffee or lunch/dinner
  10. Do 1 thing you keep putting off
  11. unsubscribe unnecessary emails
  12. declutter a room
  13. Send a letter to someone you can’t be with
  14. UNPLUG- no social media day.. can you do it?
  15. List your short term goals and take 1 small step towards one of them.
  16. Slow down, stop! Practice sitting still for 5 minutes and breathe: inhale, exhale slowly.
  17. Play you favourite tunes and dance, dance, dance!
  18. Bake
  19. Get rid of 5 things you don’t use anymore.
  20. Immerse yourself in a new book, Tv show or podcast.
  21. Have an Early night!

    Pace yourself, there are no hard and fast rules, carry over to the next month, the ball is in your court.

For ours and each others safety we follow the guidelines. We each do our bit in containing the spread of this unseen that is ravaging our very existence.

Hang on in there! Keep safe and Keep well. 💋

“It’s all about overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t.”

Thrivingdesire

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“Happiness Is a Choice requiring Effort at times”

Daily Life has been turned upside down. COVID-19 has left many feeling lost. “Everyday may not be good, but there is something good in every day”..

Positive emotions can build up a buffer against stress and can lead to lasting changes in the brain to help maintain wellbeing. So, set aside time to have fun!
Find time for laughter, to feed your soul doing something you really love.
Try out or learn something new perhaps.

Although we can’t always choose what happens to us, we can often choose how we respond to it. Being kind to yourself when things go wrong by shifting the focus away from ‘beating yourself up’ to some Self kindness speaks volumes. This will give your wellbeing a boost and naturally you will feel better.

Remember “You are what you think” so let’s Keep our self talk positive. Our words become things, they will manifest into the happiness we seek or contribute to the sadness we feel.

gratitude (ˈɡratɪtjuːd) noun: the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness. Oxford English Dictionary

Reasons to be grateful today: (fill in your own blanks)
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3.

What made today great?

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3.

My acts of kindness:

1.

2.

3.

Gratitude helps us to see what is there instead of what isn’t.”

Thrivingdesire – Keep well, stay Safe… Blessed Love💕
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